EP 156: Why the father wound makes A-level women chase men & money — and how to become magnetic

You’re not “too much.” You’re not “too ambitious.” And you’re definitely not unlucky in love.

But if you keep finding yourself overgiving, overworking, and attracting emotionally unavailable men… there’s a deeper pattern at play.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the father wound — and how it silently shapes the way high-achieving women relate to masculine energy, aka men and money.

Because this isn’t just about dating the wrong guy. It’s about why receiving feels unsafe.
Why you default to proving, chasing, and perfecting & why no level of success ever quite feels like enough.

Inside, I break down:

  • Why the father wound wires you for anxious attachment and attraction to unavailable men

  • How it drives overperformance in business (and blocks true wealth)

  • The hidden link between emotional unavailability and your “type”

  • Why “queen energy” isn’t a vibe — it’s a result of inner safety and wholeness

  • And how to shift out of chasing… into clean, effortless magnetism

This episode will call you forward and show you what’s actually been running the show behind the scenes.

So pour your matcha, open your journal, and get ready babe — because this is where you stop earning love, money, and validation… and start receiving it.

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Identity & Mindset Recalibration

— aka not “thinking differently”, but being different, and leading yourself differently in everyday life situations. Triggers don’t disrupt you any longer. Life feels lighter, more fun, and deeply fulfilling.


Feminine Embodiment + Nervous System Safety

— Think – attraction without anxious attachment. Connection without neediness. Inner wholeness. You feel relaxed, regulated and deeply in your body as your baseline. No more rushing around, stressing, overthinking, worrying or chasing out of fear, from a place of pressure, lack of self-worth, or scarcity.


Somatic Healing Work

— That’s when old patterns dissolve, and your standards for yourself and others naturally rise. You carry yourself differently as you no longer carry old emotions and beliefs that used to keep you stuck.


Aligned Wealth + Career Expansion

— Strategy + resource management to make your life and career effortless and successful. It’s time to master money, take quantum leaps in your career and have more freedom while thriving financially and feeling deeply aligned with the work you do. You get to love what you do and make BANK, bby.


Love + Relationship Calibration

— Embody secure, healthy feminine energy in your relationship/ dating life to finally have that yummy, healthy, polarized love life you desire and deserve, that your ex told you only exists in movies, lol. Get chosen, claimed, cherished, romanced and worshipped – even beyond the honeymoon phase.


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In this episode, I discuss: 

00:55 - Intro to the episode - how to become magnetic by healing your father wound

04:20 - The reason why top tier women chase masculine energy (men & money)

10:30 - The connection between your anxious attachment & chasing energy

13:45 - Why perfectionism is the silent driver of your life + how this plays out

25:50 - What *Queen energy* looks like in action + why it requires inner wholeness 

35:25 - Fun fact - chasing men and money is a result of the exact same pattern

39:12 - Practices to begin healing those old patterns 

46:10 - A quick little life update + what’s next for me

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/

Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/

Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/

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