EP 155: The identity upgrade you can’t manifest | Why high-achieving women get stuck at their upper limit

Here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud: You don’t manifest the life you wish for. You manifest the life your identity has capacity to handle. Something that I see constantly with high-achieving women is the moment right before the next level where everything starts expanding… and then suddenly you stall. 

But the truth? Most women I work with don’t have a strategy or even an execution problem. They have an identity capacity problem. And if you’re listening to this thinking, “Oh… that might be me.” Stay with me!

We’re diving deep into all things ‘Upper Limit Problem’, how trauma and fractures in our self-trust influence us, the difference between performance feminism vs embodied feminism, why too much structure is not always the answer, the 4 identity shifts you need to embody, and so much more! 

So babe, grab your cacao or matcha and a journal, because you’re going to want to do some self-reflection so you can uplevel ASAP!

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Identity & Mindset Recalibration

— aka not “thinking differently”, but being different, and leading yourself differently in everyday life situations. Triggers don’t disrupt you any longer. Life feels lighter, more fun, and deeply fulfilling.

Feminine Embodiment + Nervous System Safety

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Somatic Healing Work

— That’s when old patterns dissolve, and your standards for yourself and others naturally rise. You carry yourself differently as you no longer carry old emotions and beliefs that used to keep you stuck.

Aligned Wealth + Career Expansion

— Strategy + resource management to make your life and career effortless and successful. It’s time to master money, take quantum leaps in your career and have more freedom while thriving financially and feeling deeply aligned with the work you do. You get to love what you do and make BANK, bby.

Love + Relationship Calibration

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In this episode, I discuss: 

01:40 - Intro to the episode - the identity upgrade you cannot 'just manifest'

03:50 - The Upper Limit Problem & how it shows up for high-achieving women 

07:30 - How trauma & fractures in our self-trust influences how we move through life

10:35 - The difference between performance feminism vs embodied feminine energy

13:30 - Why too much structure is not always the answer + what to do instead

15:50 - The identity upgrade fear that I see in so many ambitious women

17:30 - The key components that create true, lasting, sustainable change

18:50 - The 4 identity shifts you need to embody in order to get ahead

23:30 - How to expand safely and regulate your nervous system

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Connect with Laura: 

Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/

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Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1

Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/

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