EP 160: The hidden cost of being a 'bossbabe' - and the #1 lie women are told about Feminine Energy
There are a lot of mixed messages in the online space about what it actually means to be a powerful woman. You’re being told to lean back, surrender, be open to receive – while dismissing what the inner foundation for this state of being is, and how to make sure you don’t become a hot mess along the way.
So while there’s truth in the importance of being able to soften, “soft girl energy” alone isn’t the full picture.
In this solo episode, we’re exploring the deeper layers of feminine magnetism — including moving past hyper-independence, over-functioning, and the pressure of always being the one in charge – and into a way of being that feels powerful, grounded, and deeply fulfilling, without ditching your ambitions.
I’m diving into the hidden cost of being the ‘strong woman’, polarity vs passivity, why being too proactive attracts men who do not lead, performative femininity and why it is NOT feminine energy, and how to unlock feminine magnetism that is FELT.
So babe, pour yourself a cacao or matcha, and grab a journal, because if you’re craving more softness, freedom, and alignment in your life — while still honoring your ambition and power — this episode will meet you exactly where you are.
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– FINAL CALL –
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Identity & Mindset Recalibration
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Somatic Healing Work
— That’s when old patterns dissolve, and your standards for yourself and others naturally rise. You carry yourself differently as you no longer carry old emotions and beliefs that used to keep you stuck.
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Love + Relationship Calibration
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In this episode, I discuss:
01:10 - Intro to the episode – how to stop exhausting yourself & become magnetic
03:30 - A little life update: recap of this past & why I moved to LA
10:50 - Why soft girl energy ONLY is not the answer
14:35 - The hidden cost of being the ‘strong woman’
20:05 - The reason why you attract men who don’t lead
26:35 - The ‘Feminine Energy’ lie that keeps you unfulfilled
34:50 - Feminine magnetism isn’t created through aesthetics
38:40 - What 'softening’ actually means
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