EP 161: Why you keep repeating the same old patterns (even when you 'know better') with Jim Curtis
If you feel like you’re doing the work — being more aware, growing, knowing better — but still find yourself repeating the same patterns in your relationships, career, or the way you move through life, this episode is for you. Because awareness alone doesn’t create transformation. Real change happens when you go deeper.
In this episode, I’m joined in person by my friend Jim Curtis — transformational coach, author, and speaker whose work bridges science and spirituality. Through his signature Hypno-Coaching approach, Jim helps people uncover and release the subconscious programming keeping them stuck by blending neuroscience, emotional healing, and intuitive practices to create meaningful, lasting change.
What makes Jim’s work especially powerful is that it’s rooted in his own lived experience. This conversation explores what’s really driving your life beneath the surface — and what it takes to shift it.
We dive into recognizing and releasing repeating patterns, what to do when the urge to create chaos or self-sabotage arises, how to connect with and work with your subconscious mind, practical tools for self-regulation, the internal shifts required to become unstuck, and so much more.
So grab your cacao or matcha, bring your journal, and get ready to reflect. This episode is full of powerful insights and breakthroughs designed to support you in stepping into the next version of yourself.
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In this episode, we discuss:
00:50 - Intro to today’s guest – transformational coach, author, and speaker, Jim Curtis
03:00 - Jim’s path that led him to hypno-coaching and how it differs from mindset work
09:35 - How to work and connect with the subconscious in order to utilize it
11:10 - Action steps to take when the urge to create chaos comes up
16:20 - How to recognize patterns that stem from our past & letting them go
22:25 - Strategies Jim implements in order to enter a more regulated state
27:00 - What inspired Jim to write the Book of Possibility
30:15 - The meaning of possibility in the context of identity work & transformation
34:05 - One shift to get unstuck that has been an absolute game-changer for Jim
36:40 - How to tap into the identity of your next level self when there is a disconnect
40:30 - One belief that had a ripple effect on multiple areas for Jim
41:30 - The most common pattern most people don’t even realize they have
42:55 - How Jim was able to create his reality of everything he ever wanted
44:20 - A major breakthrough Jim recently had in his dating life
45:50 - Is mindset work or somatic work better when it comes to healing?
46:55 - The biggest lie people believe to be true about transformation
48:20 - Jim’s top tip to Unfuck Your Life that you can implement today
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Connect with Jim:
Jim’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jimcurtis1/
Jim’s Website: www.jimcurtiscoaching.com
Jim’s Book: Order the Book of Possibility Here
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